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Your Bank Account Isn’t a Personality Trait (But Let’s Fix It Anyway)

Let’s be honest. If our bank accounts could talk, mine would probably be saying: “Girl… seriously?” But here’s the thing: Your bank balance doesn’t reflect your value as a human. It doesn’t mean you’re bad with money. It doesn’t mean you’re doomed to eat toast forever (although toast is a valid meal 3x a day in hard times). It just means life happened. You’ve probably had a few emergencies, a few impulse buys, and maybe a phase where budgeting meant saying, “We have rice. We’re fine.” Why We Think We Are Our Bank Account Somewhere along the line, society decided that a person with £2.76 in their current account is less worthy than someone with a Range Rover and a matching dog. And if you grew up around financial instability or a narcissistic parent constantly criticising your choices (hi, trauma!), you probably learned to tie your self-worth to stuff. Cue: endless hustle, spending to self-soothe, and hating yourself for not having a pension by 25. Let’s burn that ...

how to help some one with demons in their head

 Supporting someone who is struggling with intrusive or distressing thoughts can be challenging, but there are ways you can provide assistance and be a source of support. Here are some suggestions:


1. Encourage Professional Help: Encourage the person to seek professional help from a mental health professional, such as a therapist or counselor. Offer to help them find resources, make appointments, or accompany them to their appointments if they feel comfortable.


2. Be a Good Listener: Create a safe and non-judgmental space for the person to express their thoughts and feelings. Listen attentively and validate their experiences without dismissing or minimizing them. Avoid offering unsolicited advice or trying to "fix" their problems.


3. Educate Yourself: Learn about the specific mental health condition or experiences the person is going through. This will help you better understand their perspective and provide more informed support. However, be cautious not to diagnose or assume you fully understand their experiences.


4. Offer Emotional Support: Let the person know that you are there for them and that they are not alone. Offer empathy, understanding, and reassurance. Validate their feelings and experiences, and remind them that seeking help is a sign of strength.


5. Encourage Healthy Coping Strategies: Encourage the person to engage in healthy coping strategies that may help manage their thoughts and emotions. This could include activities such as exercise, mindfulness or meditation, journaling, or engaging in hobbies they enjoy.


6. Respect Boundaries: Respect the person's boundaries and their comfort level in discussing their experiences. Avoid pressuring them to share more than they are comfortable with. Let them know that you are available to listen whenever they are ready.


7. Be Patient and Understanding: Recovery and healing take time. Understand that progress may be slow and that setbacks can occur. Be patient and supportive throughout their journey, and avoid placing expectations or pressure on them.


8. Encourage Self-Care: Encourage the person to prioritize self-care activities that promote their overall well-being. This may include getting enough rest, eating nutritious meals, engaging in activities they enjoy, and seeking moments of relaxation.


9. Offer Practical Support: Offer practical assistance, such as helping with daily tasks or responsibilities, running errands, or providing transportation to appointments if needed. These acts of support can alleviate some stress and allow the person to focus on their well-being.


10. Encourage Social Connections: Encourage the person to maintain or develop social connections. Loneliness can exacerbate mental health struggles, so supporting them in maintaining relationships or connecting with support groups can be beneficial.


Remember, it is essential to prioritize your own well-being as well. Supporting someone with mental health challenges can be emotionally demanding, so make sure to seek your own support and take breaks when needed.

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