how to break up with an aggressive boyfriend

 I was with an aggressive boyfriend for 24 years so know exactly how it feels to feel the fear of breaking up! 

The first step is to tell as many trustworthy people about your situation so you have a support network.

The next step is to be financially independent which is hard but completely possible, I was lucky as I had my own house too and nothing in his name but this step is very important.

The next step is to plan the place and time your going to tell him and hide all your important possessions so he can’t destroy them, ideally morning time where no alcohol is involved and he has all day to pack up and leave. 

I hid all my computers, laptops, passports and his rifle  in my car so he couldn’t shoot me or smash up my car! 

Then I told him I didn’t want to be with him anymore and wanted him to leave today and took his house key off him so I didn’t have to change the locks. 

This sounds so simple and it was and I wasn’t scared at all as all my precious belongings were safe apart from my daughter but she was 12 and I told her I had to tell her dad something and he might get angry and she just stayed in her room and he packed up and left in 5 hours.

Hiding your stuff is really important because as soon as I told him he went straight to my Computer to smash it up but it wasn’t there and neither was anything else so he couldn’t sneek it into his bags. 

You can do it just be brave and stay strong, don’t show your weaknesses and you can be out of this relationship just like me in 5 hours.

Big hugs, stay strong and find yourself again xxx