Why You Keep Attracting People With Nothing to Their Name
Why You Keep Attracting People With Nothing to Their Name Fun at the start. Broke by the second date. Somehow always your bank account footing the bill for someone else's chaos. This isn't bad luck. It's a pattern with a name. Short version: Repeatedly ending up with partners who are exciting at first but financially draining isn't a coincidence or a type you're just drawn to. Psychologists call this repetition compulsion — an unconscious pattern where people recreate the dynamics of a controlling or unbalanced early relationship, hoping this time it turns out differently. If you grew up with a controlling parent, being the one who gives, fixes, and provides resources may have felt like the only role available to you. As an adult, that role doesn't disappear, it just finds a new person to attach to, and money is often where it shows up loudest. It's rarely the boring, stable people who end up needing rescuing financially. It's the exciting...